Some of my friends have asked me how to feel sexy with a partner while not loving their body. That’s a tough one. How do you let loose and enjoy intimacy while feeling super uncomfortable in your own skin?
The good news (there is no bad news!) is that we are our own worst critics. I don’t want to generalize, but I’d bet that the last thing on your partner’s mind when you’re about to get it on is that wrinkle on your stomach or the dimples in your butt, whether that be an old or new partner. Think about it. When getting intimate, do you critically examine your partner’s body the same way you examine your own?
A couple other tried and true methods are drinking some champagne, wine, or anything else that makes you feel kind of fancy. Also, wearing something that you feel great in, under clothes or over, really does set your mood.
Confidence really counts for a lot. I’ve been with very attractive guys whose lack of confidence makes them unattractive. I’ve been with much less attractive guys, but their self-assuredness (not to be confused with arrogance) is such a turn-on.
Let us know how you get sexy!